Inwood, Novelas, and a Queer Awakening

Meet Joeli Valerio

Joeli Valerio is a 21-year-old queer Dominican from Upper Manhattan, specifically the Inwood area. In this post, Joeli shares a deeply personal reflection on their early experiences with queerness, growing up without a support system, and how they found strength through community, friendship, and self-education. Their story reminds us of the power of visibility, healing, and chosen family.

What is your name?

Joeli Valerio

How old are you?

21

What area of New York did you grow up in?

I grew up in Upper Manhattan, socially in the Inwood area.

Describe your childhood in five words:

Foggy, Sad, Chaotic, Sweet, Warm

What was your first introduction or realization that you were queer?

I was 9 years old, watching a novela with my mom and sister. There was a scene where two women kissed, and I started feeling the same way I usually felt when I had crushes on boys.

What was that realization like?

It was scary at first. I felt a lot of guilt because I grew up Catholic, and I constantly heard that being gay was a sin. I immediately thought, “I’m going to hell. I need to stop feeling this. Stop liking this.”

Did you have any support system?

I had zero support system. Queer experiences were never talked about in my house. It wasn’t necessarily shunned, but it just wasn’t a topic of discussion. I kept it to myself out of fear of being judged by my family.

What obstacles or experiences have you faced as a queer person?

One of the biggest challenges has been being accepted by older generations. I’ve also been called names or mocked when I’m simply trying to be my authentic self.

What has helped you through your journey as a queer person?

My friends have been my biggest support. Many of them are queer or very inclusive. Educating myself on queer issues, hearing other people’s stories, watching shows with queer representation—all of that helped. Taking pride in who I am and being part of the community has made me feel less alone.

Can you share any resources or safe spaces in NYC that can be helpful for others?

If you’re in college, definitely go to your local queer center—it’s a great place to find support. And therapy. Therapy has helped me be in tune with my emotions and to not feel ashamed of loving who I love.